Alex I'll take Marriage advice not to take from strangers for 500 please.Somehow I doubt magoo is even married.
Alex I'll take Marriage advice not to take from strangers for 500 please.
No cuss words? Is this really maggo?"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."
I think your last line is accurate.If you’re saying a marriage should mean your wife not wanting you. Than yes. Obviously we have different views.
But I’m not a relativist. Your view is wrong. And mine is right.
Of course my speech could be less abrasive. But it was on purpose.
It’s clear your actions. Not hers. Are having an undesirable effect on how she views you. And normally this besides the chemical imbalances from menopause can only mean one thing:
- You are being too weak. Contrary to your belief.
Sex is obviously not the solution for all marriage problems. But not having surely means something is wrong. But if one of the effects of menopause is the loss of libido. You and not her should make up for the loss. In some ways your being selfish to believe she should act the same way. She doesn’t. You have to make up for the imbalance. You are the pill. And she is your wife. Trading wife because she starts to malfunction is a sad way of thinking.
Im used to ppl not enjoying what I say. But after in some way they pay attention. It’s never my goal to be enjoyed. Because that doesn’t work. It’s not hard to say what people want to hear. Regardless. In court or in business the good thing is there’s no bullshit. You win or lose. And I won.
But to each their own. In the end Im just some user spitting bullshit.
This is the root of the problem. She's immature and needs to pitch in with housework. You are correct in being patient, but, every now and then, you must keep applying pressure: "It would be nice if you could help do chore x/y/z" or "Don't forget the children need to be in bed soon." Stuff like that.Trying to talk about this with her goes absolutely nowhere, she just gets defensive and avoids the issues, I honestly don’t think she is really capable of understanding any of this. She is basically a child in an adult’s body. All I can do is bite my tongue and try not to think about it too much, since the alternative is to blow up at her in a rage for not sleep training our son, not potty training our daughter, never making food for me, or having sex, or whatever. Getting mad would just make a bad situation worse.
You can probably get away with the whole wife-does-everything-while I sit back approach when you’re physically busting your butt doing hard labor ten hours a day.
But I get paid lots of money to type on a computer a couple hours a day at home, so it’s practically impossible for me to justify that sort of approach. I can see where someone like Magoo is coming from, but reading his post makes me feel like I’m peeking into the lives of bottom-working class Irish blue collar people. The whole culture is just utterly different from my world. My wife isn’t like that, I’m not like that, and don’t want to be like that.
I used to read things like that from married Game guys back in the day before I was married and it all sounds simple on paper, but that’s basically one type of strategy that works for one type of relationship and certain types of people, and doesn’t map out universally.
I could just stop doing household chores, but that wouldn’t make my wife capable of handling it. It would just result in the house being a dump and me never having any clean laundry or dishes, and she would probably just have panic attacks on top of that. It’s essentially an “if you want it done right, do it yourself” kind of situation.
I really thought my wife was going to be a good homemaker five years ago, there wasn’t much indication that this was how the state of our household would be prior to getting married. It’s not that she’s lazy or negligent, she’s just not very capable or competent, and can’t seem to learn from her mistakes or adjust course when she’s trying to do things in a way that doesn’t work.
Trying to talk about this with her goes absolutely nowhere, she just gets defensive and avoids the issues, I honestly don’t think she is really capable of understanding any of this. She is basically a child in an adult’s body. All I can do is bite my tongue and try not to think about it too much, since the alternative is to blow up at her in a rage for not sleep training our son, not potty training our daughter, never making food for me, or having sex, or whatever. Getting mad would just make a bad situation worse.
You can probably get away with the whole wife-does-everything-while I sit back approach when you’re physically busting your butt doing hard labor ten hours a day.
But I get paid lots of money to type on a computer a couple hours a day at home, so it’s practically impossible for me to justify that sort of approach. I can see where someone like Magoo is coming from, but reading his post makes me feel like I’m peeking into the lives of bottom-working class Irish blue collar people. The whole culture is just utterly different from my world. My wife isn’t like that, I’m not like that, and don’t want to be like that.
I used to read things like that from married Game guys back in the day before I was married and it all sounds simple on paper, but that’s basically one type of strategy that works for one type of relationship and certain types of people, and doesn’t map out universally.
I could just stop doing household chores, but that wouldn’t make my wife capable of handling it. It would just result in the house being a dump and me never having any clean laundry or dishes, and she would probably just have panic attacks on top of that. It’s essentially an “if you want it done right, do it yourself” kind of situation.
I really thought my wife was going to be a good homemaker five years ago, there wasn’t much indication that this was how the state of our household would be prior to getting married. It’s not that she’s lazy or negligent, she’s just not very capable or competent, and can’t seem to learn from her mistakes or adjust course when she’s trying to do things in a way that doesn’t work.
Trying to talk about this with her goes absolutely nowhere, she just gets defensive and avoids the issues, I honestly don’t think she is really capable of understanding any of this. She is basically a child in an adult’s body. All I can do is bite my tongue and try not to think about it too much, since the alternative is to blow up at her in a rage for not sleep training our son, not potty training our daughter, never making food for me, or having sex, or whatever. Getting mad would just make a bad situation worse.
It's really easy to give marriage advices when you're using a house maid big dog.Dude I´m a lawyer. My wife as a business degree. She used to work as a project manager in private banking. Before she got pregnant.
She baked three cakes this weekend. You know what I told her? It would be cool if you had a dish or cake kids would remember. You know like those grandmother dishes we always remember how good they were. It´s a work in progress. Cakes were ok. One of them was too sweet. Too much sugar.
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I have friends who work in tech. They explain what they do. Nobody never understands them. Data mining. Networks. Who the fuck knows? They are mostly nerds. I like them. But they suck at woman. Some of them are married.
This is not a social class issue. Sex is not rational. It´s animal. You need to act like an irish blue collar worker in sex. Woman want that. Any woman. Not all the time of course. But once in a while. You need to be an animal. And she has to feel desired by you not in a rational way.
You´re wrong. Man and woman never changed. What you have is weak and strong personalities. A weaker man will want a stronger woman. But this is wrong. Because man shouldn´t be weak. Woman will occupy the space of a weak man.
We have a house maid. I have family members and friends who have 24h house maids. But it´s not for me. To have a spy all day in the house.
My wife fires the house maids every 3 months. And I steal my wifes phone and send them a message rehiring them. We had a romanian old lady. She was an angel. But my wife would always make up some excuse to fire her. That angel made our bed like 5 star hotels do. The romanian angel retired and returned to romania. Unfortunately for me. Now we have an african. Not the same.
Why don´t you pay a house maid? To come at least 3x week. A house maid should do besides the cleaning the dishes and laundry. Ironing and all that shit. Food is for wife to make.
But you should never manage them. This is your wife job. You pay. But they manage them.
Not having sex is your fault. The rest just hire a housekeeper.
It's really easy to give marriage advices when you're using a house maid big dog.
Many folks can't afford that.
$500 a month for house cleaning (assuming 2x a week) is a pretty big expense for many right now.
The problem with hiring a house maid who works for other family members. It´s you know she will share secrets. But it´s a price to pay.